“…in Him, you have been made complete…” (Colossians 2:10a).

Struggling to do the right thing for your children?

Physically and mentally worn out doing things for your children?

Stressed to decide on taking the right decision for your child’s future?

STOP! You are not called to be perfect for your children.

Jesus said, “Be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” (Matthew 5:48)

Our choices and lifestyle to give a so-called ‘perfect upbringing’ for our children are weighing us down and taking us away from our God-given calling of being ‘No Ordinary Parents’. We are misled and misguided by the ways of the world and forget He has equipped us to nurture our children. We trust our financial planning skills, our dietary plans, and our educational knowledge more than God’s plans and thoughts for our children. This is how anxiety and stress are replacing the ‘Prince of Peace’ in every home.

God did not plan this for your family!

Playing Perfect is not the Answer

Working towards being perfect because God is perfect is the way out. Our purpose in life should be to live a life pleasing to God. Our thoughts should align with the thoughts of God for ourselves, our relationship with our spouse and our children. As we align our lifestyle to being like Christ we will not struggle to be perfect. “…in Him, you have been made complete (Perfect)…” (Colossians 2:10a).

Jesus is the answer to your ‘Perfect Upbringing’ for your children. As you walk your life with Christ, surrendering every area of your life and dedicating every child, the Holy Spirit will guide you through ways that He has planned for your child and you will begin to see in them – “What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard, and what no human mind has conceived”                         (1 Corinthians 2:9)

Escapism is not the Solution

In our pursuit of being perfect for our children, we fail to foresee how we begin to hide our flaws, and our weaknesses and in turn put on a mask in front of our children. Remember no matter how much our children are attracted to the unreal world of fiction, parents are always real to them. When the true hidden side of parents is revealed it breaks their trust and they are disheartened. This is one major cause of teens rebelling against God, parents and the church.

Be true to your children. Let them know of your limitations as you reveal to them the God who is limitless. Apologizing for the mistakes you make doesn’t make you a bad parent. Children gain trust, they learn to forgive and they find it easier to come to you when they are at fault. Let us never forget God’s word – “…for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

In the Bible, we see great men like Moses, Samuel, and David their children didn’t turn out to be as great as them. These great men of God were perfect instruments of God but somewhere they failed to be ‘perfect parents’. I believe as they had a close relationship with the Living God they expected their children to blindly follow. As Hebrews 7:11 says – If perfection could have been attained through the Levitical priesthood… why was there still need for another priest to come.” You cannot follow someone into a relationship.

We as parents have to help our children to develop a relationship with God and they will desire to do so as we develop a true relationship with them.