How Partiality and Comparison Can Ruin Your Child

Another child’s performance is the benchmark for our children. And due to us comparing our children to another we knowingly or unknowingly are partial toward a particular child. The reasons could be many things gender, performance, physical features, ability, etc.

Such behavior brings with it a lack of confidence and an identity crisis in a child. They do things because they are told to do them. They have no aim in life. They fail to recognize their worth and purpose in their life. Though born in a Christ-believing family such injustice and irrational behavior of the parents weakens their faith in God and with time they grow cold to God’s love.

Rebekah in the Bible is one such example that proves how her partiality towards one son gave way to hate and bitterness between the two siblings.

Jacob showed favoritism towards Joseph and that instilled hatred among the brothers that led them to almost commit a crime. Favoritism and comparison are two deadly things that give way to Satan to overtake the reigns in the family.

For God shows no partiality [no arbitrary favoritism with Him one person is not more important than another]. Romans 2:1                                                                                                 

God, our Heavenly Father is the best example to look up to. He pours out His love upon all His children equally. We have got to seek the Lord to help us see each child through His eyes and as we do so He will reveal the strengths of each child. We will begin to see the beauty of the Lord in each child. The love of The Father covers all sin and it is through His love that we approach each child we have. Everything we do for our children has to be done with selfless love, no strings attached.

Accept each child as they are and do not think of ways of changing their personality. We are called to keep them away from sin and not to change their destiny. Apostle Paul in the book of Corinthians proudly accepts his weakness because he is confident in Christ Jesus, his weakness is made strong (2 Corinthians 12:10). Trust God with every weak point of your child.

Our children’s identity is not ordinary. It is not based on the standards that the world gives. We have got to declare our children’s identity in Christ each day and in every area of their lives.

As we place our children in the Lord’s hands they become fiery arrows that can be used against every attack of the evil one. In Christ Jesus, our children can defeat every dart of Satan by reversing every destructive plan.